real life self vs. blog self

Monday, August 18, 2014


Feeling a bit weird tonight. Not sure where this (this blog) is going, and so I clicked on a random post from September of two years ago. And it was pretty applicable to my night, go figure. 

Okay, here's the thing. 

This blog doesn't work very well unless I just go for it. 

Tonight I had a strange experience in which I discovered a blog written by someone I know in real life. I could tell right away that even if I didn't know the author I would like the blog. That I would feel a kinship with it, and feel like I could be friends with the person writing it. That part's not strange. That's something I feel with most of the blogs I read. (And to be honest, the reason I keep reading blogs.) The strange part was that this person and I are not really friends in real life. We're not not friends. But we're not really friends. It feels weird to read something online that I can relate to, but not get the same vibe in person. (On a side note, I kind of hate the word "vibe" but, you know.) It caught me off guard and just twisted my perception. 

I mean, it's a blog. Duh. And blogs aren't real life. Another duh. And blogs don't show even half of a persons real life. As validated by the random blog post from two years ago. I already knew this. Why did it catch me off guard? And why is it making me feel weird about my own blog?

If I knew I probably wouldn't be writing about it at 12 AM. But here I am. 

For better or for worse, this blog (my blog) is a personal blog. It has no traction as a business, it has no crafty DIY tutorials, it has no recipes, or home tours, or review for products. This blog is a journal. It's not a journal for everything. It's not my whole life. But it is a lot of my life. This is me. 

So I guess what I'm feeling weird about is the separation between my real life self vs. my blog self. I don't really want there to be too big a gap. I don't want people to meet me and feel like I'm a lot different that I read, or read this blog and feel like I read a lot different than I act. Obviously, for this blog that I found tonight, they do have a separation between blog self and real self. And that's okay. I don't want every blog to be a personal blog. Then I would have nowhere to read DIY craft tutorials. But seeing that separation first hand made me wonder if I come off a lot different in real life.



Now I will ask for comments on my personal blog: For those of you who know me in real life, what do you think? And for those of you who don't, what do you think? 

8 comments :

  1. I've been 'following' your blog for a few-ish years and I always come away feeling as though we'd be friends in the life outside of screens. Your writing is genuine and at times emotional and I appreciate that. It matches your photographs which is a reason, of many, that I come back every week or so to read. It's a nice feeling to have a "friend" who is near the same age, yet across the continent and having no knowledge of our kinship. Despite there being any question of it being your blog self vs your real-self, your writings and blog have become a comfort for me.

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    1. I'm glad to hear that. I can definitely get pretty sentimental and dramatic around here and worry sometimes that lightness and silliness of life doesn't come through quite as much.

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  2. Have you ever read Go Ask Alice, or The Diary of Anne Frank? Did you feel as though they were disingenuine? Or even showing only a slice of their "real" life? I know I never did, but they were diaries and of course little details or even somewhat large events were probably omitted. I think there's a beauty in writing a successful diary or journal. These journalers are writers and story tellers, and a good writer always knows what's a good contribution to a successful story, yourself included.

    I've always thought the things you've written were true to life, I never once thought they were exaggerated or glorified. I think that if I ran into you on the street you'd be the same person I read posts from and follow on instagram. Yes you're only showing us slices of your life, but they seem to be the important slices that make up you as a person.

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    1. So true. That's a good reminder. I can get stuck feeling like I have to show everything, but it's really interesting to approach it from the view of a story teller knowing what's a good contribution to the story.

      And I hope one day we do meet on the street!

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  3. Knowing you in real life, I love your blog. I feel like it gives me a little extra insight into you and it makes me love you more. You write in the way that you would speak, which breathes life into your words. It makes them more real.

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    1. Yay! You're one of the few people I know in RL who actually comments. I'm sure there are more people out there in my daily life who read, but I'm never 100% sure who or how often they're reading! So weird to think that a lot of the people I interact with on a regular basis know some deep insights into my life.

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  4. I think my relationship to you puts me in a funny, outlier category, as I've never met you in person, but have had the pleasure to hear lots about you from one of my dearest friends who is also one of yours. All to say that Melina was dead on when she told me (about two years ago now) about her new Portland friend named Brittany who wrote "the most beautiful blog." She was right, and I've found such a sense of comfort here. Authenticity screams through this space, as does a lot of love and sweet struggle, which are qualities I picture you carrying about in the world.
    It's not often we get the chance to feel like we know someone intimately, without having actually met them, but I think that's part of the magic of this site. It's proof of all those unseen forces and the deep, relatable meaning behind them. So thank you :)

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    1. I feel the same way. It's kind of silly that they one time you came into Portland I was so busy and we never even met.

      Thank you thank you for the beautiful comment.

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